William the Bloody (wicked_spike) wrote in here_within,
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Love, Obsession, and Other Predicaments of Romance

Draw me a line between love and obsession. Go on, draw it. At what point does it become "unhealthy?" Speculating on it, it seems to be like obscenity - you know it when you see it. You can point to someone's relationship or whatever and say that it's unhealthy, but it's difficult to list the criteria, because it's all about degrees.

Obsession seems to require that it's unreciprocated. If I spend hours on end thinking about a person... her eyes, her smile, the way her hair bounces... if there's a possibility of the person caring for you, it's love and everybody thinks it's cute. If they don't like you, and yet you can't get them out of your head? Obsession. You're dating, and you show up unexpectedly at her workplace with flowers? Cute. They don't like you, and you stop by? Stalking. Of course, there also comes a point where you can be dating a person, and cross the line into obsession or possession or something. Calling once a day is sweet; calling seven times a day is creepy. But where does the line get drawn? At what point does it stop being cute and start being scary?
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